Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Ahhh Family.

As I stated before, I am quite new to the whole blogging thing and to be honest, technology in general, but I press on. My brother, elder brother has a christian based blog that I only recently became aware of and decided to check it out as (a) I'm christian (b) I'm curious. So off I go to read his blog. Extremely well written and informative, he is a deacon after all and has always been ridiculously intelligent, scarily so. But then I see his Testimony and history or autobiographic... blah blah, so again, my curiosity is peeked.
I find the different perspectives astounding. We both grew up with the same parents, in the same house yet apparently lived completely different lives!! To be fair, he is several years my senior and male, so life for him was radically different than my own. Yet the parents he portrayed were not the parents I remember, again to be fair I was not a boy so lived a different life than he did. When he spoke of his sisters, he described me (although gratefully never said my name) as a prostitute and stripper. I thought... wow, harsh words from a man of God, let alone my brother!
Admittedly, I led a rather promiscuous lifestyle in my youth, and his gathering of facts, although exaggerated, were mostly accurate, yet when you read his perception of me, you don't think that it was in past tense, rather that I actively choose to live my life in sin and perversion.
This hurt me more than I thought it would have because I have tried mending the relationships of my siblings, and in particular, my brother and was under the impression things were coming along. To be fair, this blog was written in 2006, yet even at that time I had abandoned my wicked, evil ways long before then. I had been married five years already with all four children already born by the time this was written.
I understand it was his testimony and how he found his way to the Lord, but to depict my life to present day as sinful and perverse? I find that to be hurtful and cruel.
Again, to be fair, he probably doesn't even realize his words have caused pain to me. He is a true christian in every sense, meaning he lives his beliefs, not just talks the talk. I would like to believe were I to bring this to his attention, he would recant or at least update his testimony so as not to give such an impression, yet I'm unsure how to approach the subject with him.
Here in lies my quandary. I do respect him highly and admire his passion of good and gospel, yet I still see him as the older imposing brother, rather than a man of God first. With our rather shaky bond to begin with, I'm fearful of his reaction. I will have to ponder this more. I will keep you posted on what I decide to do.
Till then I guess.

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